Honestly there are a lot of questions to be asked about those whoa re raised by the mentally ill. While the most obvious current example is getting all the play we could easily go onto the Internet and find many, many others. There are no doubt children being raised in the belief that there are Reptilian aliens hidden among us. Some are being taught that the Illuminati are running the world. Some are taught that the CIA will control you via your filings, so don’t go to the dentist.
Then there are others being raised to believe that they carry evil inside them, that they are sinners and only a lifetime of penance and self loathing will make up for this. This last is not a specific delusion but the template for a whole host of them. The details of what your sin is supposed to be aren’t really the issue, the core point is that you are bad and your long suffering parent might just be able to keep you from manifesting that evil as long as you never, every question them.
- It could be that you carry “the devil”.
- It could be that you are a “witch” or a “temptress”.
- It could be that you, being human, are a parasite on the face of mother Earth.
- And of course, it could be that since you are a male child you are inherently evil and personally responsible for the pain of millions.
You think you’re mom laid a guilt trip when you were a kid? Did you have to sit through the endless “movies were a nickel” or “Pink Floyd, that was real music!” speeches? Remember how much that sucked? I am sure it did… but it was essentially harmless.
I will use the recent example of the Biting Beaver here because her insanity is so public. She has written it all out so we can see, in her own words, what life under someone like this must be like. I am not intending to “pick on” her but I don’t see any reason not to try and make use of her craziness to illustrate an important point.
Imagine being the prisoner (emotionally, if nothing else) of a woman who rewards every hint of disagreement with a long recital of her lifetime of abuse and rape (at least as she remembers it). Since in her mind the root cause of everything bad is “the patriarchy” just about anything is another excuse for her to tell the story again, blame your whole gender and remind you she will only be safe without men in her life.
What if you dare to have a thought that isn’t falling exactly on the party line? If you dare to imply that women aren’t always the top of the victimization pyramid?
“Last night we were having a discussion about war and, more specifically, women being the biggest victims of war. My son took offense at this, citing that men were, in fact, the biggest victims. Afterall, men had to fight and women, well, sure, rape is bad, torture is bad, but really Mom it’s definitely not worse than what the men have to go through, you know, the real victims.” – Biting Beaver on young boys
Well, what happens is what always happens when someone tied to a self image that absolutely depends on their pain being the biggest is challenged. Only if it’s your parent you can’t just walk away (for long). This happens…
“*cough* Suffice it to say that I stomped out that little glimmer of Patriarchal nonsense before it had taken a real root in his tender little psyche.” – Biting Beaver on young boys
If your a paranoid parent with emotional problems and an agenda to push the only possible response is clear. Make sure you dump as much emotional abuse as you can on the wayward offspring. Tell them that by daring to think for themselves they are, in effect, condoning the rape of women and your own mother personally. Independent thought must be “stomped out“.
“My son knows that I have been raped, I told him last night that there were times, many, many times, that I had silently wished to myself that my attacker had just killed me. The endless nightmares, the total recall that I would experience when I smelled a certain smell or saw a certain type of man, and how I wished, so fervently, that he would have just killed me, that he would have saved me the torment of the nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety and loss of self. I explained to him how some women commit suicide after they’ve been raped.”- Biting Beaver on young boys
Honestly? It sounds like emotional torture. Every action under scrutiny. Every thought vetted for political correctness and long rape stories as the primary adjustment tool. I wonder how much damage that does to someone?
Listen to the quote below… it sounds exactly like every whack job religious nutter who homeschools their kids so that “Satan” doesn’t “take their souls” or every racist fool who homeschools their kids so the “Jews” can’t “warp their minds”. This simply can’t be healthy and it doesn’t really matter what the details of the pshychosis are.
“The Patriarchy is doing it’s level-best to assimilate my boys and bring them into the folds of Male Power and Privilege and it’s my job to put the spark of empathy, the fire of self-determination and respect into their young minds to make women safer. To make their wives and girlfriends and fuck buddies safe from them, because left unchecked they could rape, they already have the equipment.” – Biting Beaver on young boys
Crazy comes in all flavors, including Beaver. The question is at what point is this worth the intervention of an agency, if ever? Or do we simply trust that like millions of children throughout the history of humanity they will take their lumps and throw off the shackles of their parents insanity when they gain their freedom.
Maybe the latter… I take heart in the fact that even after 15 years of being beaten down and abused like this Brandon still rebels, still questions, still fights back.
I think that despite the fact that her boys have been brow beaten with her theories on men and rape and whatnot, they access porn the first chance they get, proves that what she is doing IS NOT WORKING.
I read somewhere that there is a way to prevent your children from accessing this stuff but that the biting beaver doesn’t have that installed…what she has installed is something that will report back to her if her sons try to surf for porn. Now what kind of message is THAT? If she was serious about her children not viewing porn, she would make sure they couldn’t access it in her home. What she is doing is sending mixed messages to those boys and then she goes ballistic on them when they test limits like all kids do. That’s insane behavior on her part.
My hope is that those boys bide their time and then leave the first chance they get and never look back. She’s made her children suffer because she suffered. That’s not a mother, that’s an abuser.
movies were a nickel when Pink Floyd was popular? damn, inflation -has- been rampant…
(i kid)
yeah, i’ve always been disturbed by that particular post of hers as well.
Forget the gender shit for a minute. He’s a -kid.- “stomping (whatever) out of” your kid when you are supposed to be the adult and the one with the power (and thus the responsible one): Not Cool.
it’s ironic, too, because that sort of heavy-handed punitive parenting is -totally- derived from the very patriarchal (it’s the word she’d use) culture she claims to want to overthrow.
it’s also not good for Children And Other Living Things.
>That’s not a mother, that’s an abuser.
sadly enough, it’s both…
>I read somewhere that there is a way to prevent your children from accessing this stuff but that the biting beaver doesn’t have that installed:what she has installed is something that will report back to her if her sons try to surf for porn. Now what kind of message is THAT? If she was serious about her children not viewing porn, she would make sure they couldn’t access it in her home. What she is doing is sending mixed messages to those boys and then she goes ballistic on them when they test limits like all kids do. That’s insane behavior on her part.>
oo, yeah, you’re right! I remember that bit now! and yeah, bang on, that’s totally setting your kid up. and i think also provides a handy excuse for 1) having access to those sites yourself if you really need to erm remind yourself of just how horrible and depraved they are (she seemed to be doing that fairly regularly from her other posts, as i recall, although that could have just been my impression) 2) …there’s a name for that, but I forget it at the moment. double-bind, maybe. something.
also, I think even without the pr0n, while I don’t hold with keeping secrets from your kid–sure, let him know you were raped, it’s an important thing–I do think that that degree of confidence with the details, the emotional heaviness, is -too much- to lay on a kid, any kid, and especially -your- kid; because the implied message is that he should have done something to protect her, and failed. (That’s just how kids tend to process this). She’d not being an adult for him.
and now, with this latest mess, it sounds like she’s laying this implicit message on him:
“You’re just like the people who raped me, just like your abusive father. You are doomed to be like them. Because you can’t stop looking at porn, or having Those Thoughts about women (My People).”
that’s one fuck of a head trip.